Would you like to have a manual to know more about who you are? That’s Human Design.
Wouldn’t it be nice if you could also have a manual for your child or partner?
I found some answers to these questions in the Human Design system. It is like having a manual for myself and loved ones. We can find our unique “Body Graph” which is a visual representation of the sum total of human possibilities and energies.
People are often amazed when a specialist, such as myself, looks at their Human Design chart and makes comments like “Are you a perfectionist?” Or, “You like to know everything and thoroughly research something new before you engage”. “Do people often get angry with you or do you get angry with them for not keeping up with you?” “When you have something to say do you often feel like no one hears what you share?” “Do you get blamed a lot, or have you been told you tend to blame others?” “Do you question your loveability, or feel like you have to prove yourself all the time?” They reply, “How did you know?”
Do you wonder if you are empathic? Is there a better way to deal with the emotions we feel?
These and many other tendencies may be a part of your energetic ‘wiring’.
Human Design, allows us to learn how we are energetically “hardwired” at birth. How? And why? You may ask. Remember, the Human Design system is a representation of the sum total of human possibilities and energies. Your unique Human Design chart gives you so much information about yourself. You can get answers to questions like “What is the best way for me to make a decision?” “How can I get heard?” and “Why am I so sensitive to people around me?”
When you request your chart, you will receive a body graph or ‘picture’ of yourself that looks somewhat like this:
In the picture above you see some of the geometric shapes are white, and some are colored in. The white areas are spoken of as OPEN or undefined. The colored areas are spoken of as DEFINED. If you have an area defined, you experience the energy of that area in a consistent way.
Anywhere that you have white areas you may experience that type of energy in a variety of ways, depending on who is around you. In additional with an open center, you AMPLIFY the energy around you.
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The Open Emotional Solar Plexus
Let’s focus on the Open Emotional Solar Plexus. the white triangle on the right of the picture above. This center is all about our emotional energy. If you have a defined or colored in Emotional Solar Plexus center you are who you are emotionally, and you radiate your energy out into the world. Your emotional energy is consistently yours.
If your Emotional Solar Plexus center is open, you will ‘pick up’, sense or feel the energies of those around you. Not only do you ‘take in’ this information, you feel them stronger and AMPLIFY their emotions. Personally, my Emotional Solar Plexus center is open. This was very useful in my former nursing career, and now in my energy healing work, because I am sensitive to what clients are feeling, and can tap into this awareness to help them. We often say that individuals with an Open Emotional Solar Plexus are empathic for this reason. About half of all people in the world have this center open. Have you ever thought you were empathic? If so, you may have an open Emotional Solar plexus like me!
You may be thinking things like: “Oh my goodness, are we feeling things that are not ours?” or “Wait! I have this center white or open. Does this mean my feelings may depend on who is around me?” That doesn’t sound good.
A huge resounding YES to both questions. Have you ever noticed you feel good around some people, and feel not good around others? This could be because you are feeling and amplifying their energy in your open centers.
My granddaughter is the only person in her family with an open Emotional Solar Plexus. She has a flair for drama and is often acting out the emotional energies she is feeling and amplifying from her parents and sibling. If this is your child, look around at what is going on in the family as a barometer, before jumping to a conclusion about the child’s behavior!
Upon first learning about Human Design, I naively thought that neither my husband or I would be naturally very emotional since we both had open emotional solar plexus centers. This was not playing out this way in our lives, however.
Let’s imagine one partner is frustrated by someone or something at work and brings this home. The second partner is feeling and amplifying this without realizing it and starts to feel frustrated about what they are doing. They express their frustration to the first partner. The first partner now starts to feel MORE frustrated and gets upset with their partner. And so on and so on, until they both EXPLODE in frustration, and more, at each other. All this because the first partner brought home a frustration that may or may not have been theirs! Wow! What tensions have been created in your relationships without this understanding? Could this have happened to you?
When this understanding dawned on us, I and my husband had a huge “AHA” moment and realized that when we started feeling something intensely ****it may not be ours alone**** strategies to deal with…
Strategies to deal with and manage your Open Emotional Solar Plexus for better health
The following strategies will help you stop feeling like a mouse or victim and take charge of your emotional health.
Strategy 1: “Ask: Does this belong to me?
Knowing that you not only pick up on but amplify the emotional energy of people around you, remember to ask first “Does this (an emotion I am feeling) belong to me? If the answer is no, you can step back and choose to let it go. (If it persists, see the Emotion Code section below). Be aware of the energy being expressed around you, you may be able to identify where you picked it up. This may make it easier to release, and you can have compassion for that person.
Strategy 2: Stop being an emotional sponge. Become an emotional sieve.
Allow emotions other than your own to flow through your sieve. This takes practice and awareness and gets easier with time.
Strategy 3: Don’t take it personally.
Remember you are amplifying other people’s emotions. Realizing what you are feeling is not yours puts you in charge.
Strategy 4: Move away from other people’s auras when needed
This usually allows you to naturally de-escalate and defuse the other person’s energy you are feeling pretty quickly. Come back to ‘baseline’ as it were. My partner and I have an understanding and agreement now to go to separate rooms so we are able to clear our hearts and emotions and talk kindly to each other again!
Strategy 5: Accept yourself for who you are
Strategy 6: Learn to set clear boundaries
Strategy 7: Learn to handle conflict, confrontation when possible using strategies to avoid an explosion.
Strategy 8: You have a CHOICE about whether you will engage with the emotional energy or not.
Those of us with open Emotional Solar Plexus’s are ultimately here to become wise about emotional energy. Understanding the impact of the Open Emotional Solar Plexus in my life and relationships has helped me tremendously. I hope this is helpful for you to better understand yourself and your loved ones also!
What if I pick up someone else’s emotions?
This may be a question you have if you realize you may be sensitive to the emotional energy of those around you. I am also a Certified Emotion Code Practitioner. The Emotion Code is a quick, efficient technique to identify and remove trapped emotional energy, or dump our emotional baggage. We trap emotions either when we have not fully dealt with the emotional experience and impact of the emotion; or if we ‘absorb’ or soak up this emotional energy from someone around us. At the speed of life today who has the time to deal with everything we encounter? When these energies get stuck in the body they can have an impact on our mental, emotional and physical state of being!
For example, one day I was feeling very depressed after leaving my sister’s house. I checked in with myself, no I was not feeling that way before my visit. I used The Emotion Code to determine that I had a trapped emotion of Depression and that I picked it up from my brother-in-law who was facing some challenges. I released it and felt better almost immediately. What gratitude I have for being able to quickly find and release what is making me feel out of sorts no matter what the source.